Questions to Answer and Ask Before you Marry (Part 2)

This article is a continuation of part 1 on questions to ask and answer before you get married. If you have not seen it, I encourage you to because it's a progression and I am continuing on point 6. Laura and Ken's responses to the sample questions are not ideal. Before moving on with your sweetheart, you must have a series of conversations to ensure you're both on the same page regarding your future together. There is no future in your love without agreement on important issues. The key thing is to listen and be Here are crucial questions to ask before you say “I Do”:

1.       How do you handle conflicts, and what are your expectations of how we will deal with them?

Laura: I believe conflicts are natural in any relationship, and it's important to address them with respect and empathy. I value open communication, active listening, and finding win-win solutions. My expectation is that we approach conflicts as an opportunity for growth and work together to find resolutions that strengthen our bond.

Ken: I completely agree. Conflict resolution should be approached with patience and understanding. I believe in active listening, expressing our needs and concerns calmly, and seeking compromise. It's important to create a safe space where we can openly discuss our differences and find resolutions that honor both of our perspectives.

2.       What are your thoughts on having children, and if so, how many and when?

Laura: I have always envisioned having children as a beautiful part of our journey. I believe in starting a family when we both feel emotionally and financially ready. As for the number, I think it's important to have an open discussion, considering factors such as our lifestyle, resources, and ability to provide a nurturing environment for our children.

Ken: I share the same sentiment. Having children is a precious experience, and it's important to carefully consider the timing. We should be emotionally and financially prepared to welcome a child into our lives. As for the number, I believe in having an open mind and being responsive to our circumstances and desires as a couple.

3.       What are your beliefs on religion and spirituality, and how do they align with mine?

Laura: I hold strong religious and spiritual beliefs, and it's an important part of my life. I hope to share that aspect with you and build a spiritual connection together. I would like us to explore and respect each other's beliefs, find common ground and support each other's spiritual journeys.

Ken: While I may not have the same religious beliefs as you, I respect and appreciate the importance of spirituality in your life. I'm open to exploring and learning about your beliefs, and I hope that we can create an environment that fosters mutual respect and understanding of our individual spiritual paths.

4.       What are your ideas about giving, who are the people or organizations you support with funds and what are your motives for giving?

Laura: Giving back to others is a core value for me. I believe in supporting causes that align with my values, such as education, healthcare, and community development. I am open to discussing and finding common ground on charitable giving, and I believe in the importance of making a positive impact on society.

Ken: I also value giving back and supporting those in need. I have my own causes and organizations that I support, such as environmental conservation and animal welfare. I believe in having open discussions about our charitable contributions and finding ways to combine our efforts to make a difference in areas we both care about.

5.       What are your priorities from the most important?

Laura: My priorities revolve around faith, family, personal growth, and career success. While the specific order may vary based on circumstances, these are the areas that hold great importance to me. I believe in constantly reassessing and realigning my priorities to ensure a balanced and fulfilling life.

Ken: My priorities align with yours. For me, it's family, personal well-being, career fulfillment, and societal contribution. It's important to continuously evaluate and adjust our priorities as we navigate different phases of life, ensuring that our shared goals and values remain at the forefront.

I recommend you document the responses for reference and review. Remember, these sample responses can vary depending on personal beliefs, values, and individual circumstances. Intending couples must have open and honest discussions about these questions to understand each other.